if tomorrow never comes

love this song so much...
if tomorrow never comes,i want to take this chances to say i love you and thank you for all the hopes given and dreams shared..(esp to my family and love ones..)

when heart fills with doubt...

when our heart fill with doubt, how can we see the truth? which is which? whether to chew it on or let it pass? being lied to most of the times put us in the stage of doubtful thoughts. but people always say try to take benefits of the doubts. Haiisshh!..susah kan.percaya ke tak? kalau pecaya takut terkena lg..kalau tak pecaya, who knows..mybe inilah peluangnya.percaya pada instinct? sometimes bila dh dikelabui kata2 indah instict pun blh lari.. percaya qadha dan qadar..itu wajib..kalau dh Allah kata bukan and tidak..maka bukan dan tidak akan jadilah..cuma kita boleh berdoa dan berusaha.tp kalau semuanya sudah, doa sudah, usaha sudah, istiqamah sudah tapi masih belum nak jadi jg..kenalah redha atas ketentuanNYA. kerna DIA maha mengetahui.. mungkin saja perancangan yang lebih baik telah diatur untuk kita..tapi bukankah pertemuan itu adalah salah satu dari perancanganNYA.. Ya Allah..semoga KAU permudahkan bagi kami jalannya, satukanlah hati kami dalam redha dan rahmatmu, jauhkanlah kami dari godaan nafsu yang menjerumuskan kami ke arah kemaksiatan..berilah petunjuk ke atas kami. sesungguhnya YA ALLAH, KAU maha pemurah dan pengasih, maha segala-galanya. Amin Ya rabbal alamin.

hard to understand...

is it me..or is it actually them? tried to understand but somehow it isn't easy. when a person comes to your life , they brought along their own attitude..adapting to the situation, whether we can get along..if it is..then it might continue into a relationship and if not life still has to go on..
cry? well..if you have to..just do it...but don't waste time mourning days and nights...when something you wished for doesn't happen..perhaps HE planned something better for us..just be strong and stand strong...only we can make the decision to take a step forward or back ...

tired...

tiring days, weeks and month..sacrifices made..raging heart..
but some how..dalam keterpaksaan perlu redha..
hopefully semuanya akan di berkati..dan semoga kejayaan di miliki...insyallah

HOW TO BE A GOOD LEADER - has she done these?

• Remember: leadership skills and techniques can be learned. You don't have to be a natural leader. Very few people are.
• Care for your team. That means knowing what matters to each member: their health, their partner, their children, their relatives, their interests, their hopes, their fears.
• Stay close to your team. At some point, every day, walk around the office and say "Hi" to everyone who works for you. If you're not in the office that day, call and see how people are. This gives you a chance to enquire or encourage and gives them an opportunity to raise issues or make suggestions.
• Meet your team. Regularly - daily, weekly or monthly, depending on your place and type of work - have meetings of all the members of the team. Keep these meetings short, focused and action-orientated. Make sure every member of the team contributes in some way and acknowledge that.
• Train your team. Every team member should have at least two days training a year. Newer and more senior colleagues should have more. If they don't ask to go on training sessions, suggest some suitable courses.
• Grow your team. Through varied experience and regular training, you should be developing each team member to be more and more confident and more skilled.
• Inspire your team. Consider making available a motivational quote or story every week or month [for lots of good quotes click here].
• Celebrate with your team. This might be a personal event, such as a member's birthday or anniversary, or a professional occasion, such as completing a project or winning oa contract.
• Socialise with your team. Have lunch or an after-work drink with them, especially when a member has a birthday or there's another reason to celebrate.
• Set objectives for each team member. As far as possible, these objective such be SMART - Specific Measurable Achievable Resourced Timed.
• Review the performance of each team member. At least once a year - at least quarterly for the first year of a new team member - have a review session where you assess performance, give feed-back and agree future objectives and training.
• Thank constantly. The words "Thank you" take seconds to say, but mean so much.
• Praise constantly. The words "Well done" take seconds to say, but will be long remembered and appreciated.
• Communicate constantly. Don't assume that people know what you're doing, still less what you are planning or thinking. Tell them, using all the communication tools to hand: team briefings, electronic newsletters, organisational newspapers.
• Eliminate. Too often we do things because they've always been done. Life changes. Consider whether you could stop doing certain things altogether.
• Delegate. You don't have to do everything. Develop your team members by training them to do more and trusting them to take over some of the things you've been doing.
• Empower. A really effective leader sets clear objectives for his team members, but leaves detailed implementation of these objectives to the discretion and judgement of individual members of the team. As Second World War U.S. General George S. Patton put it: "Don't tell people how to do things. Tell them what to do and let them surprise you with their results”.
• Facilitate. A confident leader does not try to micro-manage his team, but makes it clear that, if team members need advice or assistance, he is always there to facilitate and support.
• Be on time. Always start meetings on time and finish them on time. Natural breaks keep people fresh. Short meetings concentrate the mind.
• Be seen. Don't just talk the talk, but walk the walk. So visit each unit or department for which you are responsible on a regular basis. Don't do this unannounced - you are not out to undermine other leaders or catch out staff. So arrange with the unit leader or departmental head when you'll visit and ask him or her to walk round with you.
• Make time. Managers are often very busy and this can deter people from approaching you, so make time for people and be approachable. People will appreciate you taking five minutes out of your busy schedule, especially if you act on/listen to what they say.
• Really listen. Many of us - especially those who think they are important - don't really listen, but instead think about what they're going to say next. Give the person speaking to you your full attention and really take on board what they are saying. [For more detailed advice on listening click here]
• Accept honest criticism. Criticism is hard to take, particularly from a relative, a friend, an acquaintance or a stranger - but it's a powerful tool of learning. Above all, assess criticism on merit, without regard to its originator.
• Think strategically. The doers cut a path through the jungle; the managers are behind them sharpening the machetes; the leaders find time to think, climb the nearest tree, and shout "Wrong jungle!" Find time to climb the trees.
• Have a mentor or buddy, someone doing similar work in the same or a similar organisation with whom you can regularly and frankly discuss your progress and your problems as a leader.
• Have a role model, someone who can inspire you to be a truly great leader. If you can't find one, study Jed Bartlet as the American President in any episode of the television series "The West Wing".
• Constantly revisit and review these tips. In his seminal work, "The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People", Stephen Covey puts it this way: "Sharpen the saw".
• Plan your succession. You won't be there forever and you may not be in control of the timing and circumstances of your departure. So start now to mentor and train at least one colleague who could take over from you.

ROGER DARLINGTON

the magic of giving happiness..

visiting a friend at the General Hospital today who met with an accident on Sunday and her condition is quite bad. seeing me approaching or anyone who came to visit her make her cries..but we know deep down she's happy to see us..and its felt strange but contented that giving her the happiness makes me feel happy as well..the feeling seep down inside..

headache..

too many works need 2 be done this month..and im not feeling so well...just hope i could cope with everything and settle them as scheduled. only determination moves me..if not..i guess i would have collapse..hahah..but the job comes in a package and these are parts of it...redha je la..:) whts important kena selalu ikhlaskan hati, barula blh buat keje dgn gumbira..ha..ha..ha..

welcome..

first and foremost..welcome to myself..heheh..been wanting to create a blog for my own but not really putting it as a serious business until recently boredom caught me..hahah..so finally i decided perhaps the time has come :)